Our Family’s News

If you’ve followed us long enough, you may have already heard…

Our family is doing foster care!

Never have we felt such a tangible and persistent burden on our hearts about fostering, until now. The Lord stirred my heart and my husband’s heart for it individually. In December I couldn’t shake it off my mind and when I finally approached my husband about it, he confessed he was feeling that burden too! We knew it was meant to be.

Nothing about our life has ever been a coincidence and God was orchestrating something purposeful here too. Our children (8, 5 & 2) soon joined us in prayer. We explained that God was choosing our family for a special assignment, not for just mommy & daddy. An assignment of welcoming children into our home that are from hard places.

Before I became a stay-at-home mom I used to be a foster care social worker. Because I know how the system works, I was able to explain to our kids what they might expect. That these kids often need help learning good choices and that it isn’t always fun.  Nevertheless, our boys were in agreement and took it to heart.

After contacting our local Department of Child Welfare, we completed orientation & filled out the application. Once we passed initial screening we were invited to start attending foster care training in April. During the course of time, the state completed a foster care home study and met with us several times.

By the end of July we were officially licensed as Foster Parents in North Carolina. In talking to our Social Worker, we voiced a preference of foster children ranging to similar age of our own, but that we would also consider some wiggle room depending on the situation. There were also a few restrictions we decided to make to ensure the best wellbeing of our children in all of this. After getting licensed in July we got really busy hosting out-of-town family and friends, and taking care of back-to-school preparations for our boys. It all went by fast.

About mid-August we got a call that we ended up saying yes to. One that we didn’t foresee coming. A preemie baby boy in the NICU, born 6 weeks early. Would we consider? Did we have a crib? Could we start visiting him that week?

When we first walked into the NICU, there were about 5 other preemies in the room, each of them being held by mommy or daddy. This little guy was alone in the far corner. You could almost miss him. My husband and I took turns cradling him in our arms. Holding a tiny preemie felt very different than our full-term babies, yet familiar all the same. We both felt a lot of peace. The nurse got emotional when she saw how my husband was holding the baby. She said it’s exactly what the baby needs, and she was happy he was going to us.

In the coming week we continued having visitation in the NICU. Within days, the baby began improving on sucking and was taken off his feeding tube much sooner than projected. A few days later the doctor said he was ready to be discharged. At that point, I spent one night in the NICU with the baby (for education & bonding) and brought him home the next morning. 

 

It’s been over a month and what I can say is that loving him has taught us to trust God completely and not lean on our own understanding. It’s also strengthened our children’s faith and helped them tangibly understand the love of our Father. How He sweeps us into His arms and call us His own, just the way we are.

How long will we have him?  It could be months, a year, two years. Who knows. Is there a chance he can be adopted? With foster care, reunification is usually the first goal. If that doesn’t happen, then the case is moved towards a permanent plan such as adoption.

Will it be hard to say goodbye if we have to part? Absolutely. It will be bittersweet. Nobody is strong enough for that. Every foster parent is an emotional wreck when they have to say goodbye. Yet, someone has to take care of these children. Someone has to do it. And children deserve to be loved 100%. The attachments they form between the age of 0-5yr with a consistent caregiver, sets them up for a lifelong healthy psychological development. It’s essential that they learn to attach early on.

Our kids love to help feed him. They also enjoy reading books to him.

So much Scripture has been ministering to our hearts during this journey…

“Whoever receives one of these little children in My name receives Me; and whoever receives Me, receives not Me but Him who sent Me.” {Mark 9:37}

“Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.” {James 1:27}

You see, it’s easy to build ourselves an empire. Comfort. Prosperity. The American dream. But it’s time we take a look outside and stop playing church. There are so many people out there in this world who need us. 

God’s heart is for people. The unseen. Orphans. Widows. The poor. The lost. People that can’t always be reached from the pulpit on a Sunday morning.

Our greatest sin is our indifference. It’s not what we are doing, but what we are not doing.

That’s not to say that everyone should be foster parents or adopt. Although, if each Christian home did – we could significantly reduce the current orphan/foster care crisis.

Consider, what are you passionate about? What burdens your heart? What makes you come alive? Our gifts and our callings are often there. 

Scripture says “God works in different ways, but it is the same God who does the work in all of us. {1 Corinthians 12:6}

We all have different gifts and we need to use them to benefit others. To raise others up. Pour into them in ways that we are able to, in the season we are in. 

Mainly, we have to learn to stay faithful in the little things and trust the details to God. 

In the next coming weeks I’ll be sharing a few different posts on the topic of foster care. I’ll explain the licensing process in more detail and answer common questions. 

I hope this helps. 🙂


Love & blessings . . .

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5 Comments

  1. This post had me in tears! Your faithfulness is so inspiring! I can’t wait to follow along with you guys on this journey!

  2. This is so so precious! You have such a beautiful heart and I’m so thankful God is using you to minister in this sweet boy’s life as well as to our hearts. May the Lord continue to pour blessings on you and your precious family!

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